Thursday, July 25, 2013

On Stupidity



I think it’s just interesting the way this word gets used these days... as a weapon. Like the way one group of people will refer to another specific group of people, with whom they disagree, as being "stupid." 

Stupid, in the dictionary, means someone who is slow at learning or understanding/someone possibly incapable of learning/someone in a stupor. Ignorant, another fun word, means someone who is quite capable of learning, but really hasn’t bothered.

Newsflash: not agreeing with you does not make that other group of people stupid. Chances are they are just people with different points of view, experiences and concerns than you. Perhaps these are even agonizing concerns that have had them dealing with information, problems and worries about which you are completely ignorant.

If this is the case, the only stupid thing here is the intentional and mean-spirited misuse of the word, "stupid," especially when it comes out of people who should know better, but apparently don’t mind demonstrating that they do not know, and are indeed, not capable of better.

Another thing I’ve seen from some people, who are supposed to be intelligent, is intentionally posting very mean-spirited, uncomplimentary, accusatory pictures, targeting those with whom they disagree.

Does the personal attack of how someone looks, or what they do for a living, or what they believe in, add a convincing element to any argument, or to the issues at hand? I think not. Mean, is just mean. And bullying is just bullying. And yes, meanness is not just stupid, but downright mindless. And bullying is never justified.

So here’s an idea: before you lecture someone else on what’s what in your tiny, perfect world, step outside yourself enough to at least appreciate what the other person may be going for, or may even be going through. The former is called "grasp." That’s the ability to see what the other person is actually trying to say, not just what your narrow perceptions tell you they’re trying to say. The latter is about compassion. Ok, look that one up. You may indeed be ignorant, but we’re supposed to believe you aren’t actually stupid.